And now we wait...

Well, we have officially been approved to adopt as of April 20, 2014.  That is the good news!  The tricky part of that statement comes when you add in the factor that now we are in the "waiting pool" to be chosen by the birth mom.  I know that is a good thing, but it also means that we have only been officially waiting to be chosen for almost 3 months now.  Only 3 months???  That's it???!!!

I read somewhere that to the adoptive family, the time spent waiting is so much longer that the official time according to the calendar.  We have been waiting for most of our married lives it seems.  To narrow it down in the actual dates somehow seems to minimize the time when the longing has been there for so much longer than that small period of time on the calendar.  It's tricky to understand all the components of "the wait".

On one hand, you can't plan exactly when you will be a parent.  When things occur through natural processes, there is a pretty specific 9 month window of waiting in most cases.  You see the baby on the ultrasound and the doctor lets you know when to expect certain things.  There are even books that lay out "the wait" and what to expect when.  I've looked and have yet to find one that explains "the wait" when you are adopting.  According to Bethany Christian Services, the wait can last up to 18 months.  Now, I'm not a math person, literacy is my thing, but I'm pretty sure that is twice as long.  :)  However, it could also be tomorrow!  That really throws planners like me for a loop.

I have always liked to have things pretty planned out and most of my life revolves around a school year time line.  I suppose that is because I have been in school since I was 5.  That is  pretty substantial portion of my life!  I'd figure out the actual number, but then there is that whole math thing again.

I suppose that is the whole point of waiting ~ to get me to rely on Someone else's timeline.  He knows the best plan anyway.  It's just hard to just sit and wait.  I like to do things.  I also like to finish things.  It's a weird sort of limbo I guess.  Our new normal anyway, for now at least.